Depending on each of our cultures, our upbringing, or our personal beliefs, sometimes it is very difficult to ask for help. We often feel that people look down upon us or think there is something terribly wrong with us. Remember, EVERYBODY has troubles from time to time and needs help.

When we need help we sometimes feel compromised or even humiliated. We may be affected by very real stereotypes, prejudices, or scapegoating.

The lonely feeling that you are the only person with a problem or challenge is the worst. Try to find a friend or support group where you can share your feelings and learn from their experiences how you survive life’s troubles. If there are judgmental people in your life, there are others out there who are kind, compassionate, and understanding.

TIPS

• Be discreet about who you tell about your problems (Tell people you can trust)

• Limit the time you have with people who are negative or make you feel bad

• Try to join groups, or attend events that will have like-minded people that you can relate to

• Find a friend, or family member who has had the same, or similar problem that you have and ask them for advice

• Try to utilize every source you can to help you solve your problem, before going to an agency or an official

• Assertively defend yourself the best way you can but leave “education and awareness training” until a time when you don’t feel so vulnerable